Talking dirty in bed is something that can have a certain bad reputation, in some cases because it reminds us of those porn scenes where only bad words are shouted, in others because we can feel ashamed to tell another person what we want to do without hesitation. some. But the truth is that a lot of people talk dirty in bed, and it’s a great way to heat things up and improve the connection between you and your partner.

If you feel like introducing some dirty (or hot) words into your routine, but just thinking about it makes you nervous, fear not, we’re here to help. Here’s everything you need to know about dirty talking, from some general tips to the do’s and don’ts to make the experience a very pleasant one for both of you.

Why talk dirty in sex?

Talking dirty to your partner is part of provoking sex and can increase sexual tension, which naturally leads to foreplay and increased passion during sex. In fact, flirting can start hours before you’re alone, with an erotic message or call, and create a certain expectation of what’s to come. You will see how exciting it is for both of you to spend the whole day waiting for the meeting!

Talking dirty can also help when you are away from the person you want. Picking up the phone, or even better, making a video call when you’re hot can be a great experience. By knowing what to say to turn your partner on, you can both get on the same page much faster. Add in some sex toys, some lube stimulation, and soft lights, and it’s like you’re not even apart.

How to talk dirty in bed: what to do and what not to do

The idea of ​​repeating obscenities during sex isn’t for everyone, but not everything has to be rude and dirty. Using positive language to talk to each other during sex can spark the moment and help let both of you know that you’re doing a good job. Hearing your partner moan in pleasure helps you know you’re doing something right and can encourage you to be more daring or daring.

And while you decide to take the plunge, we share with you some recommendations on what to do and what not to do when it comes to talking dirty in bed.

What to do for a pleasant dirty talk

  • Keep things simple. If you and your partner are beginners in the art of dirty talking, the best we can advise you is to keep things simple. Try not to worry too much about creating scenarios to play an elaborate, fantasy role, as that will create too much pressure. Instead, focus on the basic actions, how you feel about what your partner does to you or what you do to him or how much you like a certain part of his body.  
  • Find out what phrases turn him on. Your sexuality is completely unique; That’s why it’s normal for things to be somewhat different from your partner and dirty talk is no exception. With this in mind, find out what kinds of words make her turn on. Try different types of things to say or just ask what they would like to hear.
  • Tell him that you are very hot. Simple and effective! A great way to put your partner on top is to tell him that you are very horny. Listening to this helps increase arousal. You can even try telling him what you would like to do to yourself because you are so horny or what you hope to receive during sex.
  • Tell him what to do. Sometimes it can be exciting to tell your partner what to do, and you may find this very pleasurable. If this motivates him, tell him where to put his mouth or what position to move into. If your partner likes to be submissive, they may tremble with pleasure at the sound of some sexual instructions.
  • Tell him what you’re going to do. On the other hand, why don’t you try telling him what you’re going to do? This can build anticipation and help make him very aroused. Tell him how you are going to pleasure him and how great an orgasm he is going to have.

What not to do when talking dirty in bed

  • Focus on the shape or size of your body. It is possible that your partner has a problem with his body and does not want the attention to go to that part when you talk dirty. Sure, many will like to hear how big or small some parts of their body are, but equally, other people may not like it. To avoid touching a trouble spot, make positive, affirming comments about your partner’s body without mentioning sizes or shapes.
  • Do things you’re not comfortable with. As with all things sex, don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with. Enthusiastic consent is mandatory for all parties involved when it comes to sex and intimacy. Make sure that all parties are happy with what is said or done during your dirty talk experience.
  • Ventilate with others what you do in privacy. We hope this doesn’t need to be said, but let’s do it anyway: what happens in sex should stay in that moment and between you. Better not to share the details of your successes by talking dirty too openly.

Dirty talk: what can I say?

Are you prepared or prepared but you need some examples so that everything goes well? We are going to see 10 things to say before and during sex.

10 things to say before sex

  1. I really need you right now
  2. I get so excited thinking about you
  3. I can’t wait to feel you inside (inside of me/inside of you)
  4. I want to give you the best oral sex of your life
  5. I want to kiss all your body…
  6. Tonight you can do what you want to me
  7. I can’t wait for us to be alone so I can undress you
  8. I picture us naked and alone right now
  9. I just had an amazing memory from last night
  10. Would you like us to go to bed early tonight?

10 things to say during sex

  1. that was so amazing
  2. I love how wet you are right now
  3. Please don’t stop what you’re doing
  4. This is the best feeling in the world
  5. you make me so hot
  6. I want you to take control of me
  7. I want to taste you
  8. I want to make you cum
  9. I’ve missed your body so much
  10. I want you to suck/kiss me here/there

Why don’t you try talking dirty with your partner and see what works for you? Remember, the most important thing is that you both are comfortable and enjoy the experience, so have fun!

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