What are the most frequent sexual fantasies? Have sex in public? Imagine us with our ex? Know the answers of men and women!

Sexual fantasies are that terrain that sometimes seems like a taboo subject, but shouldn’t be. And, what are we talking about when we use this term? A sexual fantasy is a mental representation that we create for ourselves, often unconsciously , about sexual relations that we would like to live (or just imagine), and above all, that we like to imagine because it excites us.

According to Sigmund Freud, father of psychoanalysis, it is about ” representations not destined to be executed “. However, sexual fantasies can be fulfilled. What does the data say? Here we bring you the results of two surveys conducted on the most common sexual fantasies in men and women.

The most common sexual fantasies

A survey by a leading dating site for married people in the UK reveals what are the 10 most common sexual fantasies. The survey was conducted on both men and women.

A surprising fact? 55% of those surveyed said they wanted to have sex with their ex. Is it true or did they just answer the first thing that came to their mind? Without further ado, find out about the other sexual fantasies that the participants answered; who knows, they might surprise you!

Having sex with the ex

As we said, this was the most commented response. Having sex with the ex again becomes the first of the sexual fantasies on the list.

Recreate a viewed scene

Couple looking at computer in bed.

In second position, those surveyed answered that they fantasized about recreating a sexual scene seen on television. Up to 40% said so!

Having sex with a celebrity

Another of the most common sexual fantasies, according to the portal’s survey, would be to have sex with a celebrity, that is, with someone famous. Up to 38% of those surveyed affirmed it . Surely here is mixed the idealization that we have towards that person and, why not, the fact that he is “unattainable”. It seems that we like challenges.

Sex with current partner

It can also be a sexual fantasy, why not? Imagine having sex with your current partner. And it is that, up to 36% of those surveyed named this possibility. It seems that what we already know we also like. Surely memories that we already have with that person influence here, moments in which we have felt very excited or passionate, etc.

Sex with an unknown person

couple in bed

Another of the most common sexual fantasies is the one in which we imagine having sex with a true stranger. That is, with a stranger. The morbidity of the unknown influences a lot here. Neither more nor less than 29% of those surveyed selected this option.

Romance with a work buddy

In sixth position, 27% of those surveyed responded that one of their sexual fantasies was to imagine having an affair (or sex) with a co-worker. It’s a classic, the idealized love affairs of people at work… Who hasn’t experienced one?

Sex with a friend

It is not necessary to go “so far” with strangers, nor so close with our current partner. The reality is that another sexual fantasy is to imagine having sex with a friend.

Trio sexual (group sex)

Another of the sexual fantasies that the respondents chose was this: having threesome or group sex. The number of participants in the imaginary sexual act was not specified. 19% of those surveyed responded that one of their fantasies was this.

Public sex

In ninth position we find the fantasies of having sex in a public place (or with the possibility of being seen by others). 14% of the participants chose this option. It seems that the risk (in this case, the risk of being discovered) has an intrinsic part of morbidity.

Have sex with a policeman

Having sex with a police officer is one of the most common sexual fantasies.

In last position, with 11% of “votes”, we find another of the most frequent sexual fantasies: imagining having sex with a police officer. This may have to do with the morbidity towards authority, towards limits, towards power or towards the uniform . Or all together, who knows!

Sexual fantasies in men and women

The survey not only reveals the most common sexual fantasies, but also some curious facts between men and women. In the case of women, they are the ones who think the most about having sex with their ex again (or at least, they say so in the survey). 

More polls

Another survey, this time conducted by researchers from the Department of Psychology at the University of Quebec, Canada, revealed other sexual fantasies. Some of them coincide with those already mentioned. In the case of women, these were the results (in order of highest to lowest preference):

  • Have sex in a romantic place.
  • Having sex in unknown, strange or unusual places.
  • Receiving oral sex.
  • Being masturbated by the partner.
  • Having sex with someone other than the couple.
  • Play the part/role of the submissive.
  • Having sex in a public place.
  • Being part of a threesome or an orgy.

What happened to the men? Their most common sexual fantasies, according to the survey, were the following:

  • Oral sex.
  • Having sexual relations with more than one woman at the same time.
  • Having sex with someone who is not your partner.
  • The unexpected sex.
  • See two women have sex.
  • That the couple accept that they ejaculate on her.
  • Have sex in a romantic place.
  • Being masturbated by your partner.
  • Being part of an orgy with more than three women.

As we can see, we are not so different between men and women when it comes to sexuality, arousal and imagination. Here we have seen what are the most common sexual fantasies of both, and how some of them are repeated in each survey.

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