There are numerous excuses that can be used to avoid condom use. Surely they sound familiar to you, for example, “it’s that I feel less”, “it’s that it’s more difficult for me to have an erection” or, simply, “it bothers me with a condom”.
It is good to verbalize the problems that we can feel in our sexual relations, but we must always weigh the disadvantages, if they really are, and the advantages. Condoms, in addition to preventing an unwanted pregnancy, are the only contraceptive method that reduces the risk of contracting STIs. There is talk of up to 80-90% effectiveness, as long as the condom is used correctly and during the entire sexual relationship. Never forget that your health is the most important thing and is above a partner.
My sexual partner does not want to use a condom: what do I do?
What if my sexual partner or partners do not want to use a condom? When someone doesn’t want to use a condom, it puts us in a difficult situation. We do not want to disappoint or think that we do not want sex, but we do not want to risk our health either. Also, sometimes it is difficult for us to talk about sex, so it can be difficult to talk about it, but it is not impossible! Here are some tips to deal with this issue:
Explain why using a condom is important to you
He talks about the importance of respect in sex, why you consider it important to use a condom and what it means for you to use a condom, but also addresses the importance of not feeling forced or pressured to accept and an intimate situation in which that is not comfortable.
Listen to their reasons for not using it and offer options
Ask him to explain what his problem with condoms is. You may have had a bad experience or simply have a misconception about condoms. Make it clear that condoms do not affect the erection and will not affect sensitivity during sex. Perhaps you have not been able to choose the right condom or you have not put it on fast enough so that the erection is not affected. It offers alternatives to solve it:
- The first thing is to know what the condom size is so that it does not squeeze or bother.
- When having sex, always leave the condom outside, previously opened and at hand, so that, at the most delicate moment, you don’t waste time looking for it or opening it.
- Turn it into a game part of the relationship by putting the condom on. This way the action is not cut off and the sensuality is increased.
- Say yes to the lubricant, since it is the best way to soften the penetration, if that is the case, and make the encounter even more pleasant.
Point out that there are different types of condoms to enjoy:
- Condoms to delay ejaculation : choose Durex Prolonged Pleasure. They are condoms that contain PerformaTM lubricant with 5% benzocaine, a local anesthetic that delays male ejaculation and, therefore, prolongs the duration of the relationship. In addition, their Easy-OnTM anatomical shape makes them very comfortable and easy to put on.
- Condoms to increase pleasure : Durex Mutual Climax condoms are based on accelerating the female orgasm and delaying the male. To do this, they use PerformaTM lubricant with 5% benzocaine and an embossed texture of dots and grooves. On the other hand, the Durex Intense Orgasmic include the stimulating Desirex gel that produces sensations of heat, coolness or tingling. Together with its embossed texture of dots and grooves, they provide a truly intense sexual experience.
- Super thin condoms to feel more : Durex Invisible are the thinnest condoms from Durex. Being so thin, they maximize sensitivity without losing safety.
Show that no one is immune to an STI
Above all, if you have already had sexual encounters with other people, it is important to be clear that all people are vulnerable to contracting a sexually transmitted infection or STI and the condom is the only method that reduces this risk. STIs are not always seen, and no matter how much you know or trust these people, you are not going to know if they have had an STI, and because STIs are common and on the rise, protecting yourself is important.
If your partner does not want to use a condom, the most important thing you should do is talk honestly with that person, remember the importance of being comfortable during sex and, above all, remember that your health is in your hands. In any case, if by consensus you decide not to use a condom, it is recommended that you have a complete check-up to rule out the presence of an STI or take the appropriate measures in case you have a sexually transmitted infection.
